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Why Singles Are Flocking To A Speed Dating Event Near You
To love someone and to be loved are two of the best feelings one can have. We all want to be happy with that special person in our life. But the task of finding the perfect match can be a daunting one. In this modern era different methods are evolving which allows the romantically unattached person to find his/her love. One method that has been around way before the existence of dating apps is speed dating.
Speed dating involves men and women meeting with each other over a period of short dates. Here men and women get a chance to talk with each other for a specific period of time, after which they switch partners. This is indeed a great way to find your perfect date as it is time efficient and well structured. You get a chance to interact with a lot of people at one go. Since matching happens at the end so people do not feel pressured to select or reject others in person.
It is very beneficial for those who are very busy in their lives or who are very shy to meet unknown people. It offers you a relaxed atmosphere to interact with others. It involves less pressure and of course less expenditure as compared to an actual date. Below are a lists of practical speed dating tips you can apply right away at the next speed dating event.
“Online dating is like online shopping except your’e looking for people no one wants and it is $50 a month.” ―
Speed Dating Tips For Women
How To Captivate The Man Of Your Dreams In 4 Minutes With These Simple Steps
Whether you’re a veteran of the speed dating scene or you’re about to try it for the first time, there’s no question that stress is involved. After all, you’re trying to catch a guy’s attention – and keep it – in just four minutes!
In a bar or at a party, four minutes would barely cover the first introductions and a bit of flirting. Speed dating, however, calls for sharpened skills. Thankfully, the skills you need to sharpen aren’t hard ones – they’re skills you already possess! Read on for the best ways to prep for a night of speed-dating bliss.
“In its purest form, dating is auditioning for mating (and auditioning means we may or may not get the part).” ―
Yes, you’ve heard this a million times before. But speed dating is a high-pressure situation, and many of us simply aren’t sure how to be ourselves in such a short amount of time! Thankfully, the answer is simple – relax. Yes, it’s hard. When you put across the real you instead of a twitchy, fidgeting ball of nerves, however, you’ll be VERY happy you made the effort.
Another thing you’ve heard so many times, it flies past you without a second thought. After all, speed dating doesn’t give you a whole lot of time to focus on anything but looks, right? That’s the challenge. If you were just looking for a hookup, looks would be one of your top concerns. You’re looking for a real match, however, so it’s time to grow up a bit and try to see beneath the surface. Don’t automatically shut down if the guy across from you isn’t Brad Pitt. Try to read his language, body movements and facial expressions to determine if there’s a diamond hiding in that rough.
Avoid Kardashian Makeup
While it may catch eyes at the club, heavy-duty contouring won’t do you a lot of favours in a (slightly more) real world setting. You run the risk of coming across as fake, plus, guys will wonder what’s so horrible that you have to cover it so heavily! You’re gorgeous, so let that natural beauty shine through.
Balance The Conversation
Another point that’s extremely tough with just four minutes. Ask questions you’re genuinely interested in, and listen to the answers. To avoid coming across as a yes-girl, however, offer up some interesting stuff about your life, as well. If you need to, practice with a close friend (better if it’s a guy friend) or even in the mirror. You’ll feel silly, but those words will come out sounding much more confident during crunch-time. Ultimately, you want a nice balance of questions and answers on both sides of the table.
Dress For The Occasion
Speed dating takes place at all types of bars, clubs and restaurants these days, all with their own official or unofficial dress codes. Dressing accordingly should be common-sense, but far too many women make the mistake of dressing in extremely revealing clothing. We understand that it’s an attempt to stand out, but keep in mind that you’ll be standing out for all the wrong reasons. Hookups are one thing. For a deeper connection, however, it’s best to come across as the classy lady that you are.
Your Bottom Line
All the old advice really is the best advice. If you can relax enough to come across as your confident, interesting, amazing self, you’ll attract the type of guys you want to meet.
Speed Dating Tips For Men
How To Spark Instant Attraction With The Woman You Desire In 4 Minutes
Speed dating under 4 minutes just might be one of the highest-pressure dating situations on the planet. Even meeting a girl’s parents gives you some time to repair mistakes! In saying that, comparing it to walking up to a woman at a bar will be even more terrifying for the majority of men out there. When you’re faced with just 4 minutes in speed dating, you have to bring your A-game, and that’s precisely what these tips will help you to perfect.
“Dating someone on the opposite end of the happy spectrum teaches you an incredible amount of patience.” ―
Dress The Part
Letting your personal style shine is one of the biggest keys to a great first impression – and that’s really what speed dating is all about. If you don’t currently have a personal style, grab one – fast. If you’re clueless, go for classics – a well-cut suit projects a “successful businessman” vibe, while a slightly battered leather jacket never goes out of style (and lends you a slightly bad-boy air, even if you’re an investment banker).
Work That Body
Your body. Body language is subtle, hard to control unless you know what you’re doing, and one of the quickest ways to send out “stay away” vibes. Learn a bit about the subject when you have the time. For starters, learn how to walk confidently. Just by throwing your shoulders back, standing tall and slowing your stride, you can appear much more confident. A quick, hunched shuffle indicates low self-confidence, which is an immediate turn-off.
Leaning in as you talk to your dates is crucial, but be careful. Too close and too often can come across as stalker-ish and needy. Try to alternate leaning in to hear her and leaning back (so she has to lean toward you) during your short conversation. Avoid crossing your arms – although this move has been debunked as a defensive posture, it’s still often perceived as one.
No, not there. Pawing a date within minutes of setting eyes on her is a horrible idea. We’re talking about subtle touches. If you actually strike up a mini-conversation, touch her arm for emphasis as you make a point during a story. This casual intimacy mimics the real thing, and automatically places you in her mind as somebody she feels comfortable with. That is, if she doesn’t yank her arm back. You might also try this as you’re getting up to leave the table – just don’t make it look as though you’re grasping after her for dear life.
Downplay The Negative
This is one of the most confusing aspects of speed dating. You want to nail a stellar first impression, but you don’t want to tell lies that are only going to come out if you score an actual date. Think of your speed dating patter almost as you would a job interview. Don’t puff yourself up to insane (and totally false) levels of success. This doesn’t do a thing except tell women that you’re a liar.
On the other hand, however, broadcasting the negative stuff about you comes across as just plain weird. Strike a balance. Nobody’s perfect, but we’ve all got something interesting going on. Living with your parents? Be upfront…but be sure to work in that amazing freelance job you’ve got going on, and your future plans.
Look Her In The Eye
You already know not to stare at the table. However, you may have heard that if you look at a girl’s mouth, she’ll think you’re looking her in the eye. This could not be further from the truth. Suck it up, take a few deep breaths and look her in the eye. Avoid creepy, stalker-type staring, but connect with her eyes at least a few times during your four minutes. You’ll come across as more genuine and extremely confident, both of which are wildly attractive.
BONUS TIP: The Art Of Flirting With Her
How much to flirt? How little? Unfortunately, there’s no magic formula for this question. Some women find casual, immediate flirting fun, while others are more serious and would prefer a strictly casual conversation during speed dating. The good news is that whatever you prefer, your best matches will prefer the same. Flirting at your own speed will actually help you weed out potential matches.
If you’re already a big flirt, don’t hold back! The women most compatible with you will respond favorably. Avoid being vulgar or coarse, but let her know that there’s a spark between you. Your openness may just make her comfortable enough to flirt back.
If you’re naturally shyer, learn how to flirt. You don’t want women to leave the table thinking you’re not interested. Something as simple as a compliment can be flirtatious, so pick a feature you find beautiful (avoid being vulgar, of course) and let her know. Complimenting her eyes is a great choice, but also very common. Add to it by thinking outside the box and compliment something more unusual – try her hands (especially if freshly manicured) or even her nose. It will catch her of guard and probably make her laugh – always a good thing!
“Life is not a dress rehearsal. Finding love is all about taking a risk, taking control of your social life, and knowing that you won’t waste today because tomorrow is a gift.” ―