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Self Confidence Building By Cultivating Courage and Overcoming Rejection And Failure

Self confidence is imperative in every aspect of our daily lives, unfortunately more people experiencing difficulty to find it. When you seek to understand and cultivate courage and learn to overcome your fear of rejection and failures, you are in the right mindset to build everlasting self confidence.

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Learn To Cultivate And Practice Courage

If you look at all the people you admire – the ones who are successful, who live life to the fullest, who get things done and are self confident – they all have one thing in common, and that is courage. Many may think that courage only comes to play when doing something extreme, like jumping out of an airplane, or quitting a stable job to travel the world. It’s not though. You may not know it, but you and the people around you are displaying courage in your own little ways, such as getting out of bed in the morning, even in the face of depression, or facing someone you’ve wronged.

What we’re trying to say is everyone has courage. Some may have a little bit, while others may have more than fair share. But it’s there. And it’s really just a matter of learning how to harness the courage that’s already existing and make it work for you. Once you have learnt to harness courage, it will be a step easier for you to build self confidence and become the person that you have always wanted to be.

“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.” ― C. JoyBell C

Know That It’s Perfectly Normal To Doubt Oneself

It’s human nature to doubt oneself. What you need to really understand is that doubting yourself does not in any way mean that you lack courage. It just means that you don’t have the facts or the salient experience to predict a sure outcome; hence, why you feel some trepidation. Self-doubt will always try to deter you, so being aware that it’s there and it will rear its ugly head no matter what will make it easier to ignore.

Read And Seek To Understand

If you know something, chances are you won’t think twice about doing it. This is why you need to read and gain knowledge first. This will serve to build up your confidence and, subsequently, help you tackle the situation head on.

Apart from that, read books that inspire you. Fill your social media feeds with motivational snippets. This constant stream of positive words will do wonders in boosting your courage.

Prepare Yourself For The Potential Outcomes

You probably know that daredevils can only do the crazy stunts that they do because they’ve had years and years of practice. Again, you need to educate yourself and know the facts, so you don’t blindly walk into the situation that is scaring you. Ask yourself the question – “what’s the worst that’s going to happen?” Chances are it’s really not as bad as your scared self will have you think. So no matter what happens, know that it’s perfectly okay to fail. You can just dust yourself off and try again.

Face Your Fear

Basically, you have to know what it is that you’re afraid of and look it in the eye. It is often this fear that tells us what we really want, so face it to know exactly what it’s trying to tell you. As Meg Cabot said, “courage is not an absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.”

Stop Procrastinating And Just Do It

If you keep putting things off over and over, chances are you’re never going to do the thing that you want to do. More often than not, you just have to take a leap of faith and just get it over with. You’ll be surprised to find that your courage has already taken over without you even noticing.

Overcoming Your Fear Of Rejection

At some point in time in our lives, we all fear rejection. Be it in work life, love life or social circle of friends. Following are some guidelines help you to eliminate your fear of rejection.

Stop Worrying About It

This is the first and foremost thing you need to do. Stop being guided by this fear. The key is to act maturely and not to succumb under pressure.  We attract the things that we think about hence constantly thinking about rejection is only going to bring in more rejections. Leave the baggage behind and start on a fresh note. Visualize your success and work towards it. You will be surprised to see a surge in your confidence after this.

Time For Loved Ones

Whenever you are going to face a situation where you fear of being rejected (whether it is going for a new job interview or asking a girl out) take out some time to spend with your loved ones, be it family or friends. They will gladly remind you of how good you are. They will make you realize that your negatives are not as bad as you think, and that you are an amazing person. Learn to appreciate yourself. Feeling good about oneself is the first step towards overcoming rejection.

Make It A Learning

Rejections aren’t always bad. They let you know where and when you are doing something wrong. They help you improve on your shortcomings. With every rejection, you face your fear and ultimately you grow immune to it. It increases your risk taking ability. Next time when you will face a similar situation, it will be surprisingly easy to deal with. Do remember that everything happens for a reason.

Be Optimistic

Accept yourself for who you are. There may be someone who didn’t like you for being you. But that is not your problem. So just enjoy the ride. Be comfortable within yourself and realize your own self-worth. Do not seek reaffirmation from others. Just remember you are one of a kind and it isn’t worth changing yourself because someone didn’t approve of it. Learn to look at the positive side in every aspect of life. If something goes wrong, see what you can learn from the situation instead of grieving over it.

Forgive Yourself And Move On

Most of us tend to be harsh on ourselves. We tend to judge our failures critically and that’s what instills the fear of rejection in us. It is important to move away from your failure if you intend to make a fresh start. Let go of what went wrong. You didn’t prepare yourself, you showed up late, didn’t behave properly, whatever the reason may be. Just forgive yourself at that very moment. Rather than sulking over it, figure out how you can improve on it and then do it! When one door closes, new ones open.  Seek out yours. Embrace the experience and move on.

Conquer Your Fear Of Failure

People having fear of failure can never pursue their dreams and they tend to lead an unsatisfied life. Conquer this type of fear and you are on your way to building your indestructible self confidence

Fear factor is the reason why people can’t move forward in their life. It develops discouragement and depression. It prevents individuals from developing a clear vision in life. Many people are unaware of the fact that due to their fear of failure their life remains stagnant and role of negative consequences rises in their life.  People often are scared to start something new because of their fear of failure. They enter into a vicious cycle of anxiety, depression and fear.

“I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.” ― Tony Robbins

Say Goodbye To Your Comfort Zone

Move out of your comfort zone is definitely the first step towards overcoming your fear of failure. It is only then that you begin to grow and become stronger. It is advisable to accept your rejections as rejection when you are out of this zone and be okay with it, it is a part of life. 

Always Have Faith In Yourself

The most important thing is to believe in yourself. If you always think that you are beyond recovery of your failure then you are just setting up for another failure. Once you fail in any situation it is very tough to regain self-esteem. However, if you develop a trust factor in yourself you may overcome your fear. You have to exercise strong faith in your abilities in order to overcome fear.

Be Ready To Experiment

Fear of failure holds onto us and prevents us from exploring anything new. Don’t be bogged down with your failures. Rise from the ashes like the Phoenix and take the world in your stride. It’s okay to fall because it will make you tough and prepare you for larger things in life. If you fail the first time, don’t give up just prepare yourself and give it another shot.

Learn From Your Mistakes

It is impossible to find somebody who has never failed even once in their life. Failure is a part and parcel of our life. Learn from your failure because every failure takes you one step closer to success. So say goodbye to regrets and look forward to starting afresh.

Confidence Is Key

Fear of failure in your life may make you sad and gloomy. With confidence you can overcome your fear of failure. To gain confidence you need to live your life to the fullest and experience all the positive and negative things in your life. Fear can hinder you from making new changes in your life while sabotaging your confidence. Don’t be a prisoner of your fears and failures, learn from them and strive harder to achieve success.

7 Ways To Build Self Confidence

Life has a way of testing you to see if you deserve success by throwing obstacles at you. Your self confidence can dwindle if you don’t learn on how to build it everytime rejection occurs.

Low self confidence restrains you from living life to the fullest. It limits the ability to see the hidden talents inside you. Self confidence is based on your perception about yourself. A self-confident person is able to achieve their goals better as compared to an under-confident person. If you are facing an issue of low confidence then here are 7 steps that can help you to build self confidence.

“With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” ― Dalai Lama

1: List Your Positives

Every person is blessed with at least one quality. You must make a conscious effort to list down your skills. Making yourself aware of your positive qualities will help you see yourself as a better person. Being aware of your qualities and talents will help you to change your perception about yourself.

2: Don’t Be A Prisoner Of Your Past

Most of the time, we behave in a certain way or try to cut off from certain situations because we fear about what people will say or think. Fear of being judged prevents us from being our true self. Relax. No one is judging you, give your idea, speak your mind, and dance like no one is watching. Remember, no one is perfect, not even those with whom you are dealing with. The moment you stop thinking that you are being judged, you will be able to open up to people.

3: Indulge Yourself With Positive People

Positivity brings charm in your life. Be in company of people who are positive towards their way of life. Their positive attitude will rub onto you and you will learn to look at life in a different perspective.

4: Identify Your Insecurities And Overcome Them

It is essential that you know what your pain areas are. You must know your fears or your insecurities. Learn to overcome your insecurities with the help of positive reinforcement.

5: Discuss Your Insecurities With Your Confidant

Speaking about your insecurities to your closed ones will help you in accepting your challenges. Friends and loved ones are a great resource. They can help you in realizing what a wonderful person you are. You will be able to see yourself in a different light when you speak open heartedly with your loved ones.

6: Learn From Your Mistakes

No one is perfect. Everybody tends to make mistakes in their life. It is your choice whether you want to get bogged down with your mistakes or you want to learn from your mistakes. Learning from your mistakes will help you do things in a better way. It is therefore important that you look at learning areas from your mistakes.

7: Take Pride In Yourself

It is natural that we tend to compare ourselves with others. This sort of comparison brings us down and often highlights our fears and insecurities. If you want to increase your self confidence then you must stop comparing yourself with your friends or colleagues. Learn to be positive and take pride in what you are. Taking pride in yourself will help you in being confident about yourself.