Before anything else, let us make one thing clear – you are not really afraid of women, per se. After all, women are not horrible, monstrous beasts straight out of some scary Guillermo del Toro film. Instead, what you are truly afraid of is something else – rejection.
Luckily, rejection is nothing more than a state of mind, and by simply reversing that, you can already successfully overcome this fear. By doing so, you can then get out there and pursue the lady of your dreams.
The Worst-Case Scenario
This is something that you really need to understand for exactly what it is. Basically, you need to ask yourself the question – what’s the worst thing that could happen? Would it be so devastating that you won’t even bother trying?
In a real world situation, the worst thing that can happen is you will be turned down. While admittedly that can be quite a bummer, it actually isn’t the end of the world, so this should not damage you in any way. Which brings us to our next point . . .
It’s Not Personal
You have to understand that if a woman turns you down, she is not doing so to deliberately hurt you. More often than not, she may actually feel just as bad as you do for having to do it.
The fact of the matter is a woman usually does have a valid reason for saying “no.” She could already be with someone else, or is having a bad day, or taking a break from dating, or is too busy. It could be anything, really. So never take her rejection as an attack on your person because more often than not, it’s just not personal.
Most men make the mistake of putting the objects of their affection on a pedestal. This is a mistake because not only does this unjustly dehumanizes that person, it also makes you feel inferior.
Know that no woman is perfect. The lady of your dreams is in no way superior to you, and she is not just doing you a favour by giving you the time of day. She is human, just like you. In many ways, she is probably even more scared and vulnerable than you are. The pedestal is one place that she shouldn’t be on, so do yourself a favor and don’t put her – or anyone – there.
Eye On The Prize
A lot of men have the bad habit of visualizing rejection before it even happens. As a result, they end up not making their move at all because in their hearts and minds, they’ve already been rejected.
One way to counter this is by visualizing success, instead. By doing so, you can become more confident and a lot more in control of the situation. This is very, very important, as exuding confidence will go quite a long way in your attractiveness.
By envisioning the “yes” instead of the “no” at all times, you will find yourself a lot more motivated, which, in turn, can translate to greater success.