As life expectancy grows and more seniors are getting back into the dating game, the world of online dating has exploded. If you’re ready to get your game back, read on for some effective tips.
Shop Before You Pay
Our first tip is a practical one. There are many dating sites out there, both free to use and those which require a paid membership. The paid sites are generally easy to use and have fewer scam artists. They also come in every variety you can imagine, from sites dedicated to Ivy League grads to those focusing on a shared interest in hobbies. If you choose a pay site, choose wisely. You may have the finances to set up multiple accounts on different sites, but do you really need to? If you check out lots of sites before you set up a paid account, you’re more likely to find one that you really enjoy.
Set Up an Honest Profile
This tip sounds rather obvious, but you’d be amazed by how easy it is to exaggerate online. From using 20-year-old photos to padding their life experiences, the ways to exaggerate (and outright lie) are as numerous as the people on a particular site.
The good news about this rather disturbing phenomenon is that online daters have gotten extremely savvy at spotting the fakes. Everybody can get taken in by a clever con, but as more seniors take to the internet, they’re learning that what sounds too good to be true, usually is.
Knowing this, you can make your profile stand out simply by being yourself. Yes, it’s old advice – but some of the best you’ve ever gotten. Use a profile picture that shows you as you look today. If possible, choose a shot that shows off one of your hobbies. When building your profile, include all your interests, your achievements and anything else that lets potential matches see the real you. Even if this doesn’t make you sound like the most interesting man in the entire world, potential matches will find the honesty refreshing.
Don’t Be Afraid to Flirt
If you feel a bit odd flirting online at first, don’t worry – everybody does. However, don’t avoid it simply to avoid the initial awkwardness. Without the privilege of seeing you in person, a potential match can’t read facial expressions or body language. These are huge components of flirting, but impossible to achieve online – the exception would be video chatting, but it takes a while to build up to even that level of closeness.
Since you can’t be seen, you have to make your words convey what you’re feeling. This can be difficult, but it doesn’t have to be. If you avoid being crass or vulgar, yet still let them know you’re interested, you can’t go wrong. The two biggest mistakes of online flirting are crossing the line and treating your potential date like a sibling.